Made it through Thanksgiving … and I’m really thankful for that. Glad it’s over. I’m also thankful to have learned a few lessons that will surely help me in the future.

Oh my, was this the most tiring experience! I guess I shouldn’t have been surprised. Fatigue has so far been one of the most difficult aspects of RA for me.

I am still adjusting to what I can do, for how long, and how many times in one day. Most of the time I am doing better at setting appropriate limits for myself. For example, I have reduced my massage hours each week by 20%. But apparently holidays make it much harder to set those limits.

I am grateful to say that I didn’t do the primary cooking. That’s never been the way my husband and I divide labor. But I do bake the desserts, and do all the related dishwashing. Not a small task during a holiday with all this eating!

Next time I won’t offer nine people two dessert choices. One would have been plenty! And probably I would have been less stressed with the tried-and-true instead of new recipes.

And when the first chocolate cake I baked was ruined by another’s carelessness, I debated about baking a second cake. I did – and regretted it. Next time I won’t re-make anything – and hopefully won’t need to. This way I hope to be less exhausted when guests arrive!

During a busy day, I often plan a short nap to help with fatigue. But our family togetherness made it hard to stop for naps. Our grown kids live down the street, which we genuinely love. Over the holiday weekend, it meant extra evenings together eating leftovers and playing fun games. With all the people in and out, I didn’t get even a short nap on Thursday, Friday or Saturday! Thankfully I decided to give in Saturday night and head to bed almost two hours early. Next time I won’t compromise the need to rest a bit during the day.

Now I just have to remember to read this before Christmas weekend!!